Dear friends, conversations on the topics of sex with my girlfriends and clients, as well as studying the statistical data had me at an alarm. So, according to statistics, about 90% of women pretended to orgasm at least once in their life, and about 70% do it on an ongoing basis, despite the fact that about 80% has never been experienced any orgasm. My personal polls are even less consoling. So what are the reasons why women are on the path of deception, depriving themselves of sexual relief and real intimacy?

 

1. Competitiveness.

In order to stay in the competitive struggle for their male, it is necessary, in the opinion of many, to be hotter and more advanced than other females. Whoever screams louder and cums more quickly, has a better chance. "I complimented all my partners on what great lovers they were, even the most ordinary ones because if I do not say this, he'll end up with the one who will," says Katya. "If I do not cum with him, then he will be taken away by the one who does".

 

2. Habit, shame, and fear

Once entering the path of deception, there is no turning back. The further, the more ashamed and frightening to admit, that's why you have to feign your whole life. "When you are going to do a seminar for men, you ask them how they would react if found out that their wife has been faking an orgasm for five years", Irina says. The habit of simulating is also one of the reasons for cheating. If you do not start a relationship with a new person with simulating orgasm, then each time you do not have to force yourself to pretend, and as a consequence, the likelihood of real orgasms are very high. And then the need for pretense disappears. "I began to experience orgasms with my lover after three months, but I had nothing even close with my husband for 20 years of marriage", says Natasha (note: the names have been changed).

 

3. I want it to end as soon as possible

If to force yourself for reason No. 2, then, naturally, you would want to stop this as soon as possible! Or suppose, a woman simply has a headache or does not have the desire, but a partner requires intimacy. Sometimes a man is not even persistent, but the woman convinces herself that sex is supposed to be given. Well, let's say, every three days (as Marina does, another of the respondents). For the "health" of her husband or so he doesn't look for someone else to fulfill his needs.  Faking orgasm in such cases is the best way to end up sexual interaction.

 

4. He tries so hard - I do not want to upset him

When the partner makes a lot of effort to bring the woman to the peak of pleasure, but she does not feel anything, the woman either feel pity for him or wants to adjust. And here, too, the simulation of orgasm comes to the rescue. As a result, the man feels like a real hero. His self esteem grows, and her rating in his eyes soars to the skies, which undoubtedly positively affects relations (for the time being, of course). Then it grows into the causes No. 2 and 3.

 

5. I do not want to look frigid

We do not talk honestly about sex. Around this, a lot of lies and exaggeration to increase self esteem arise. Also, based on public opinion, women's magazines, and information on the Internet, it may seem that everyone around is having sex so periodicity and experiencing 16 orgasms.

Everybody, but not me.

Something is wrong with me.

Why am I so unlucky?

I'm frigid.

No man will want me.

If he finds out, he will leave me.

These and other thoughts make a woman pretend. So she doesn't look defective for herself and in the eyes of a loved one. Needless to say, this reason leads to the rooting of the habit of simulating and to "I want everything to end up as soon as possible."

 

6. Sex without feelings

A few more situations - sex without the slightest hint of feelings. For example, for the sake of "notches on her belt". She just wants to look cool in the eyes of each new partner, increase her self esteem. She wants compliments like: "I've never met such a hot woman" or "You're so sensual, it's so easy to give pleasure to you". Or she considers a man as a potential husband /boyfriend, and she wants to reel him in, but real feelings have not woken up in her yet. In all these cases, of course, she wants intercourse to end as soon as possible and almost always there is an imitation of orgasm.

 

Does he notice?

All women, with whom I spoke frankly on these topics, are sure that their partner(s) do not notice anything. Many are so involved in the role that they have reddening of their face, discharging fluid from the vagina and other signs of real orgasm. Yes, and women's portals and websites are teeming with the most detailed recommendations, how not to give it away during faking. I asked men a question: "Do you consider yourself a good lover?" usually answer: "Yes, so far no one has complained." Men, you have to understand, women do not complain! And even on the contrary - they make compliments when they do not like it.

 

Is the simulation of orgasm harmful?

Dear women! Everyone needs a physiological discharge. Constantly being in a state of sexual tension and dissatisfaction leads to stress and diseases. Of course, there is masturbation, but, first, many of you do not practice it, and, second, it will never be a substitute for true intimacy. If you simulate orgasm for the preservation of relationship, it's all for the time being. Sooner or later your partner will learn about this deception, regardless of whether you tell him this in the heat of a quarrel to offend or humiliate, or simply decide to talk heart to heart after living in denial for a whole year (or even many years). Do not run yourself into a wall building a relationship on deception!

 

In the absence of a real discharge, the woman's vagina eventually becomes less and less sensitive, blocks accumulate, and getting rid of them becomes more difficult over the years. If you decide to interrupt the cycle of deception and discover the beauty of real intimacy, if you want to not fake orgasm, but to fully experience it, then we offer you several options:

 

1. Come to us for a yoni massage session.

2. Come with your partner for coaching on yoni massage.

3. Send your partner to the male seminar Sex Mastery

 

Dear men! Is it possible that you are in vain amusing yourself with the hope that your woman is not included in the 70% who regularity simulate orgasm? Perhaps, thanks to such people as Katya, who distributes fake compliments for the reason of sheer competitiveness, you have imagined yourself a good lover. Join our course for men Sex Mastery and find out how to truly become the best lover in the life of any woman, how to earn genuinely enthusiastic compliments. When I invite women to join women's mastery courses, they usually suggest "You better teach my husband!". For many reasons, they themselves can't tell you this. And they worry, like Irina, that there will be a scandal if you discover the truth about her simulation.

 

My dear friends! Do not deceive your loved one and do not deceive yourself, but rather look for a solution to the problem together!

 

I wish you sexual satisfaction and blissful orgasms.

Your Arina