Despite the fact that imitation of an orgasm is more inherent in women, according to Cosmopolitan magazine, 28% of men have simulated an orgasm at least once in their life. What makes men do this? The main cause is impaired or delayed ejaculation (DE), which is the least studied type of male sexual dysfunction.

 

“For me, sexual intercourse is a real torture,” says Olga. "Sometimes my husband cannot finish in an entire hour. I try to explain to him that this is not normal, but he does not want to listen to me, on the contrary he considers himself a superman." Dear men, sex is a mutual process, when you are interested not in the “ultimate goal”, but in the “journey” itself, when you are not indifferent to her needs and desires, when your woman is mutually pleased and comfortable. But when you hammer at us like woodpeckers, for a whole hour with the sole purpose of reaching your peak, believe me, this is not pleasant for us. Women, do not be discouraged and do not take it personally if your partner can not finish for long time. After all, most often men imitate an orgasm so that his partner does not worry. If you do not want your man to do this, rather help him. To learn how, read below.

 

In those cases, if the causes of DE are physiological, anatomical, neurogenic, infectious or endocrine, you will need the help of a qualified physician (urologist, venereologist, neurologist, endocrinologist, etc.). Below we consider only some psychogenic causes. In most cases, a very effective means of combating DE is a lingam massage, which we can easily teach your partner. Some studies report efficacy of 70-80% with this type of treatment (increased stimulation, more focused on the genitalia without coitus).

 

 

MASTURBATION

In some cases men can easily reach orgasm by self-satisfaction, and with a woman they have some difficulties. Women, allow him to pleasure himself in front of your eyes. You should not feel embarrassed in such circumstances! It’s not that something is wrong with you, is that a man has long been accustomed of satisfying himself - he knows exactly what speed of movements he needs and how much he needs to compress his penis. Perhaps he can teach this to you. Give him a lingam massage, show him various penis compression techniques. Most likely the new movements from your hands will seem to him much more pleasant. In addition, during such a massage, he can ask you to adjust the strength of your grip and the speed of your hands. A man in this case is recommended to relearn proper masturbation, contact us and we will tell you how.

 

PORNOGRAPHY

For many men, pornographic videos give a very high level of sexual stimulation. It’s not only about the actresses who set unrealistic expectations about how a woman’s body should look like, but in extreme scenes that are hard to achieve in reality. For a man it becomes difficult to experience an orgasm with ordinary human sex with such a low level of stimulation. In this case, women are recommended to overcome the disgust and jealousy they have for porn and watch such films with their partner. And even shoot their own erotic video! For men in this situation it is recommended to modify the technique of sexual intercourse, the restructuring of sexual fantasies and strategies of arousal. For more information about the strategy of arousal, you can read our article "Violating the prohibitions." Role-playing games can also be a good addition, which a couple can use in their love making.

 

WOMAN'S INEXPERIENCE

Dear Women! If you behave in bed like a log and do not make sounds of pleasure, do not fuck back, do not work with the muscles of your vagina, then the man, of course, does not receive adequate pleasure and no wonder that he can not finish with you. You deprive yourself of many facets of pleasure as well. Come to us for Pompoir workshop where we teach you how to train your vaginal muscles. Read about "16 types of female orgasms" and other articles about sex. Learn to move in bed. Learn to do lingam massage. Men, do not hesitate to tell your partner about what you lack in sex with her, help her in acquiring new skills.

 

RELIGION

Masters and Johnson was the first to discover that the DE in some men may be associated with faith in God. Religious education can limit the sexual experience necessary to develop the adequate knowledge about sex in general and the ejaculation process in particular, which can lead to inhibition of the normal function of ejaculation. Many pious male believers masturbate very little or never, and for some, guilt and anxiety about masturbation and "losing semen" often leads to DE. In this case, of course, sexual training is highly recommended. Read books and articles, go to courses, practice. For our part, we can offer the seminar "Sex Mastery".

 

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STRESS

Stress (as well as fears, anxieties and depression) are the scourge of modern society. And despite the fact that in most cases it is recommended to consult a psychotherapist and take medications, it must have in mind that some antidepressants can stimulate DE (tricyclic antidepressants and antidepressants of the inhibitors of the reverse serotonin reuptake). If you are seeing an increase in DE due to taking medications, do not hesitate to inform your doctor. You also need to work with reducing anxiety to achieve the ultimate goal. Professional psychologists can help you with this.

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ALCOHOL

Alcohol abuse makes a big contribution to the development of DE. It's no secret that alcohol affects the ability of any person to receive pleasure. Most often, an orgasm will not only keep you waiting for a long time, but it will also be unemotional and dull. Often, a man who is beyond his limits with alcohol prefers to fall asleep rather than work on achieving his orgasm. Well, what can we advise here? Drink less, guys!

 

 

 

We wish all of you fast orgasms!

 

Yours, Arina and Mike